Helping Hurting Hearts One e-Mail at a Time

The numbers of online daters looking for love is increasing. Bringing with it the challenges of frustration and disenchantment with the online dating process. Most people are not meeting the right people or even worse, they’re not getting any results at all. Many are turning to Online Dating Coach, Chaszey Sandhriel.

“The reason most people are not getting the results they desire is because their profile is a contradiction to who they truly are and what they are truly looking for in a partner. They desire one thing and communicate another,” says Chaszey. She adds: “Internet dating starts with a profile that stands out and projects strength because it puts your most authentic Self forward and because you accurately describe who you are looking for in a life partner.”

There are three points to remember when putting together a profile that will produce results:

1. A successful screen name When we first create our screen names we forget that the screen name we choose communicates poems, or not, to people who will be looking at our profile. Screen names like “TiredofmyJob,” “WhoseYourDaddy,” “WorshipMe” will not get you the results that you’re looking for, no matter how great your personal profile reads. Pick a screen name where people cannot read between the lines trying to figure out what you’re trying to communicate with it.

2. Photos that work “I look at dozens if not hundreds of photos a day and I am amazed at the choices people make when they upload their photos to the Internet. They don’t realize that their main photo is leaving a first impression,” Chaszey says. Most of your photos, especially your main photo, should not cover your face with sun glasses or a baseball cap. This is not the time trying to impress and communicate to your potential partner that you’re a football fan or a baseball fan. Photos that work show your face and your eyes clearly. Include a variety of photos ranging from headshots to full body shots (even if you’re overweight or uncomfortable).

3. Your profile Be concise, authentic and open when describing yourself. I have talked to many men who told me that once they went out on a first date, they discovered that the profile of the woman they went out with was actually written by a girlfriend, who meant well, I’m sure. However, it left these men wondering who they really were on a date with and they lost faith and trust. I cannot stress how important it is for you to get clear about who you are and for you to accurately state who you are and what makes you tick in your profile. You are not trying out for an essay contest, you are communicating to the world that you are ready to find your true love and you are calling him or her to you with your profile. This is the time to be downright honest with yourself and the world so that you have a chance to attract a person who knows who you are from the beginning.

4. Clearly describe the partner you want to attract Everyone wants a “good woman” or a “great guy” but this doesn’t mean that your profile needs to sound like you’re looking for a Stepford wife or Prince Charming. Too many adjectives can result in people tuning out about what you’re really looking for. Perhaps you may want to try to describe how this person makes you feel or what you as a couple would do together. Write this part as if you’re talking to her or him directly.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online Dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlineDatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.