Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1
July 17, 2008
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your big enemy.
Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way there’s less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren’t that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.
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