40 Something, And Still Dating!
July 29, 2008
It may seem impossible for a man who has reached 40 years old to dream of marriage, let alone have a family and settle down, especially if there are currently no prospects. As intimidating as it may seem, there are many guys 40 and over whom are rarely rejected - many of them actually meet and date plenty of incredible women. This happens quite often.
Even though they get just as nervous as any other guy, these men go full speed ahead, not even thinking of their anxieties. There are some helpful tips for men over 40 who want to find that special someone, or who just want to date, these tips are important in today’s society.
One tip is to use online dating, although this usually how the younger crowd meets other singles, there are many in the over 40 category who would love to meet someone as well. Of coarse, you may be tempted to see the profiles of beautiful young college girls, but be realistic, and try to find someone who’s personality matches your own.
For those that are serious about finding someone special to share a long term relationship with, there are great sites on the internet, like eHarmony, that allow people to be matched up based on their personalities to give you a better chance of finding someone that might suit your fancy. Ultimately, this means that you’ll have to ensure you’re honest about who you are, which may be scary for an older man. Being honest and forward about who you are when searching for that special someone can make all the difference between finding someone who makes you happy and someone that is a great fling but nothing more.
One of the key tips for men over 40 is confident in who you are when you are dating a younger women. Even though there is an age gap acting youthful is always a turn on for them. Being able to act like a little kid but maintaining control of yourself tends to add a little mystique to your personality which can peek a woman’s interest in you. Being able to play a little can set the mood and create a relaxed atmosphere and helps her feel more comfortable.
Always remember that even the younger men still face the same problem men over 40 face and that is the ability to listen to a woman. This is one of the tips that is over looked by men over 40, we have set in our minds to be the conversationalist, to be the active one that we forget to just listen. Always remember that if you can keep the conversation up but still take time to comment on what she is saying, that will increase your chances with her.
Do not take on the role of a father, while out on a date. A lot of older men without knowing take on the parental role, thus making her feel like your daughter. Try and react like you would of 20 years ago and see how much further that will get you.
There are many more dating tips for men over the age of forty out there on the internet and in numerous books and advice columns, but these here are a few of the finer points to consider when plunging back into the dating pool. If you as a man over forty are trying to find that special someone, be yourself, be realistic, and be a man - you’ll be surprised at how well your dates may go.
How Do I Get My ex To Want Me Back
July 29, 2008
First thing you must address, if you want your ex to return and stay is why they left in the first place. You have to explore your own behavior and determine why what was good before isn’t any longer.
We are emotional creatures. We enjoy being around people who make us feel good when we are around them. Simple things like paying a person a compliment makes them feel good. Laughing at the corny jokes you heard them say before, believe it or not makes them feel good. Those jokes may be corny and repetitive to you, but they can be fresh and funny for someone else.
Secondly, people like to feel like they matter in your life. They like to feel like they are needed. We like to feel like if we were gone there are things about us that would be missed. We all can be replaced,but we don’t want to think that we can be replaced. Do you ever miss the player who never leaves the bench? Don’t run a relationship sitting on the bench. Just because you got the uniform and team name doesn’t make you the star player.
Thirdly, make your person feel special.Remember how you treated your partner when you first met? Everything was funny. You opened doors, cooked meals daily,you went out on dates. Just because you are a couple doesn’t mean you should stop any of this behavior. Treat them like everyday could be your last day together. You have to remember there will always be someone else waiting in the wings looking for a good mate. Don’t send them out to the wolves. Continue to do whatever you did to get them in the first place.
Its amazing what will make us feel special. All you have to do is the small things that say I thought about you today. That could be a text message,that just says, I’m thinking about you right now. When you go to the store in general pickup something only they like for themselves. It is the little things that say, i love you.It is the little things that make the biggest impression on our hearts.
Give your past actions some thought. Then make yourself a plan to get your ex to return to you. No relationship is hopeless. You can get your ex to come back to you,if the next thing you do is get a plan together. Even if your ex right now won’t talk to you. There are methods you can use in your plan. Yes,you do want a plan to get your ex back. For help with your plan watch this video for methods to
<A href=’get your ex to return‘>get your ex back
. The video will reveal the three magic ways of getting your relationship back on track.Why Cutting Off Contact Can Help You Get Your Ex Back
July 29, 2008
It may seem like exactly what you don’t want to do, but believe it or not cutting off contact with your ex can help a lot when you do decide to actively pursue a relationship with him. Rebuilding a life with him can be a lot simpler and easier after a term of about a month with no contact between you…and here are a few reasons why.
1) Being in each others’ faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it’s easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.
Once the month has finished and everyone’s heads are cooler and more calm, working on the relationship can begin anew. After the break, everyone will be in a better frame of mind, allowing for a much easier time of constructive pursuit of fixing the problems between you.
2) Just because you’re not actively fighting, don’t think this doesn’t apply to you. Even the nicest post-breakup relationship needs to have a break in it if you ever want to rekindle old feelings. If you two are still together after the separation, it’ll be like you never did break up and your ex won’t feel any need to get back together.
A couple quotes for you: “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and “you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.” Being so close to one another for so long makes it harder to notice the great things about being together. When you two are forced to be apart, your ex actually gets the opportunity to miss you…and often that ends up making the situation sink in a lot deeper, and makes mutual agreement to get back together a lot easier.
3) Another benefit of being apart is that you have some time without pressure to organize a plan and figure out exactly what you need to do to get him back. Without him right up in your face, it’s easier to think and make decisions based on what your reasoning tells you, and not what your heart forces you to do.
It’s a tricky thing to get somebody back after a blowout…people in pain behave differently than you may expect, and the right actions to get the right result may not be what you anticipate. Having a preset plan that has worked out what you need to do ahead of time will help prevent you from doing the wrong thing on the spur of the moment, even if it seems like the right thing at the time.
Any person fresh out of a breakup with the intention to get her ex back should take this advice seriously. You’ve seen a few of the reasons, so I’m sure you understand the benefits of this separation…actually doing it can be hard. It’s tough to be apart from the person you care for, but in some ways that’s what you’re banking on. Just rest assured that this will help, and when you get through it you’ll find it much easier to find happiness again with your ex. I wish you the best of luck.
In the Profile Supermarket - You Need to be Top Shelf!
July 28, 2008
Meeting women online is a great way to practice a few techniques that will get you far in the long run. Online dating has the advantage of putting you in control of the situation, and avoiding the awkwardness of real-life rejection. But how do you get her to notice you? Your online profile is the key to success.
How you write your profile has everything to do with the sort of responses you will get. If you aren’t getting any responses, you’ll know you did it wrong. While writing a profile that gets response is an art form, it is also a lot simpler than you would imagine. There are just a few guidelines you need to follow.
First off, there are a few deal-breakers you need to avoid at all costs when writing a profile. Whatever you do, do not announce what a nice guy you are. This is one of the most common mistakes newcomers to online dating sites make. Avoid writing a resume-style description of your life, your job, or yourself. And please, please, whatever you do, resist the urge to post that picture of you doing a keg-stand with the guys, no matter how funny you think it is.
Okay, so if these are all no-no’s, what can you do to ensure success? Good question. Start off by making yourself sound confident and fun, not needy and desperate. In other words, hook them with humor.
In the words of David Deangelo - being cocky-funny is the fastest route to being noticed, both online and off. This rule especially applies to your profile! This might mean playing a little hard to get, implying that a woman will have to work to get your attention, or just indicating that any woman who catches your eye is one lucky lady.
Rule number two: don’t ramble on and on. Leave them wanting more, not less. Make them guess a little bit, instead of laying it all out there. Women love a little mystery, and if you make them wonder instead of telling them straight away, it will drive them crazy.
And finally, get her attention with a knockout photo. Your photo might reflect your interests, highlight your best features, or just demonstrate a talent, but it needs to fulfill a few criteria. It should be fairly accurate and well-lit. You want her to see the real you, in your best form.
Just remember these three tips: use humor to draw women in, keep it brief, and seal the deal with a picture that sells the image you want to get across. You can’t go wrong if you follow this advice.
Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 2
July 18, 2008
It is taught to young men that their physical urges is crude and silly, and that women are just doing a favor to sleep with them.
“Doofus dad” syndrome is another societal factor that I’m going on. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/wife/girlfriend/daughter has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.
This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are “better.”
You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.
But here’s the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won’t be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.
I realized this after analyzing tons and tons of dates I went on with women.
After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I’m only giving a smaller amounts of my time.
This makes our time better, and aside from that it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women obsess more.
Now my girlfriends can’t get enough of me - in fact, I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”
Women can’t be pulled to what they already have. You see, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me.
The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.
No need of games, just be real with the girl - and don’t spend more time that you want.
Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.
Now this requires that you are able to meet a lot of women in a short amount of time, which I’ll have to cover in another newsletter.
It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.
Remember that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.
Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can “keep” her.
Another point that I want to give - when you start being honest about how much time you’re going to give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.
It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.
If you are following your true ways, it will usually from the social norm.
If you are in the habit of adopting the values that others try to impose onto you, you will probably experience some tension, guilt, discomfort, even loneliness at first.
That’s why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.
And no, we don’t try to impose our values or goals onto you. We think you’ll be able to do that for yourself, given the proper guidance.
Vin
How to Manage Your Time when Meeting women - Part 2
July 17, 2008
Young men are taught that their carnal desire is crude and silly, and that women are doing you a favor by ALLOWING YOU to mate with them.
There’s another societal factor going on, that I call the “doofus dad” syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.
This leads to the perception that women are “better,” and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.
You will feel required to give a lot of your time to a woman if your time is not so valuable.
But here’s the thing - you won’t be present for most of that time, if you are giving a woman too much time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.
I just realize this after analyzing lots of dates I went on women.
After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I’m only giving a smaller amounts of my time.
Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.
Now my women can’t get enough of me - in fact, I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”
Ask you know, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they already have.
The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.
No games, just be real with her - don’t spend more time that you want.
Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.
Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to take up in another newsletter.
It’s a sad thing to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” women, and then they are buried in their coffin ALONE.
Remember that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.
You can’t “keep” a woman by investing all your time with her.
One more thing here - if you start being honest with the amount of time you are willing give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.
It’s either a girl will try to make you feel guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This is ok, it just means you have a weak focus.
You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.
If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.
That is why I discover and develop the Attraction Code. You can learn about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ deep within.
And no, we don’t intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.
Vin
Tips for Women About Online Dating
July 17, 2008
As a woman, when looking for free online dating tips you should always look for online dating tips that make sense. It can be difficult to find good online dating tips for women, but if you look hard enough you should be able to find some practical online dating tips for women that can help you avoid trouble. Avoiding potential trouble from predators that use the internet as their hunting ground, are the primary online dating tips geared toward women.
But there are other things to watch out for when using online dating services and important things to remember as you use their service.Several reputable online dating services take complaints about their clients very seriously as they try and do a good job of screening out potential criminals.
So, one of the first online dating tips for women that can be given is not only something that will help you, but also others that use the online dating service. Always report shady characters to the online dating service so that the website can take the appropriate actions that would help protect any other clients.
Of all the online dating tips for women that can be given the best piece of advice is to take everything very slow. If you give out too much information or become too comfortable with someone you meet on an internet dating service you run the risk of becoming the victim of a predator.
If someone has a real interest in you as a person and not as a victim then it is perfectly fine to take your time and get to know that person as well as you need to before you open up to them with other personal information. The best online dating tips for women all have to do with taking your time and getting to know the person before you open up to them too much and it is up to you as to what that pace is.
Google it Before You Meet Them
There are a great many male criminals and predators out there using internet dating services and women should be especially careful when using online dating services. A very basic online dating tip for women that many women seem to forget is to put a prospective date’s name through an online search before you agree to a date. When you send someone’s name through an internet search You would be shocked at what you can come up with. Protect yourself and find out as much as you can about a prospective date before you agree to that first meeting.
Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1
July 17, 2008
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your big enemy.
Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way there’s less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren’t that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.
Managing Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1
July 17, 2008
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your worst enemy.
A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
I’ve personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, but so do women.
In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.
How to Manage Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1
July 17, 2008
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your big enemy.
A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.
I’ve personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s not TRUE!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.
