On-Line Dating - What Turns Men Off
July 28, 2008
On-Line dating can be a very effective way to meet quality men. However there are a few “rules” that women should take heed to if they don’t want to turn off a potential mate, especially one they are interested in.
You have chosen an online site and you have joined it. Congratulate yourself for taking this important step. You have chosen a picture and written a inviting profile. When you get callers or writers, spare all the gory details of your life when first begin corresponding with them. Be interesting but don’t overload them with your all your life’s up and downs. Please don’t tell them how many times you have been dumped or dumped other guys in your life.
For example, if he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has.
Get to know the guy some on the first conversation or email. Ask him about himself. Don’t just talk about yourself. Many people believe another person is “a very interesting person”, when they are allowed to talk about themselves to that person. Be a good listener, especially in the beginning.
Lying will get you in trouble. If you have children you will not be able to hide them in the closet when you finally meet your online date. If you are skinny, don’t say you are curvaious and vice-versa. Any lies you tell on-line will eventually, come to light as you continue to meet more people.
One of the ten commandments comes strongly into play strongly when you write your profile and correspond with anyone wanting to connect with you, through dating on-line. “Thou Shall Not Lie”. This might be the most important rule in on-line dating. Untruths have a tendency to rear their ugly little heads at the most inappropriate times. When they do, you could lose the change of developing a great relationship, with someone whose company you have been enjoying.
Maybe you have been alone for a while, or have had some “bad relationships”, but still don’t make yourself look desperate. Desperation or even appearing to be desperate turns most people off, especially men. You don’t want to scare them away, by being clingy or too easy.
It is not necessary to play games with your callers. Be yourself. Don’t give up. I dated on-line for over a year before I met my husband. We have a great family life and have now been married for several years. Keep at it. You will meet you soul mate.
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